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Fr Paddy: Remembering Ashling Murphy

Ashling Murphy

The recent tragic death of Ashling Murphy, has left a deep sense of vulnerability and pain, in the heart and soul of our nation.

Ashling’s, horrific murder, has brought with it a renewed consciousness, of how so many women constantly feel afraid, regarding their fundamental human right, to be able to feel safe.

Ashling was just going for a run, after no doubt a busy day, doing what she loved, teaching children.

Teachers were described by Taoiseach Michael Martin, as the backbone of our society.

As an educator, Ashling was in her infancy of what promised to be a wonderful career, grounded in the valuable vocation of cultivating the gifts and talents of young people.

She was 23 years of age and despite her young life, the Country seemed to get to know her personality by the powerful testimony of her family, her boyfriend, and her school principal.

Bright, articulate, confident and deeply gifted, a talented musician, camogie player described as a “Bright Light” for all who knew and loved her.

In all our lives our teachers are held close to our memory, I think especially of Ashling’s First Class children, where she taught in Durrow, Co. Offaly. At their tender young age, trying to make sense of her absence makes us all deeply upset.

Too many women have or continue to be exposed to horrendous verbal, physical, emotional and sexual abuse, not to mention violence. Many women don’t feel safe inside their own homes.

Domestic violence has been an ugly reality felt by too many especially during lockdown. As a male and indeed part of a culture where patriarchy continues to be frequently felt, I sense a fundamental need to end misogyny and a culture that has imposed such fear into the lives of women.

Ashling’s tragic death can well be a cathartic moment for how we engage and defend the integrity of every woman in Irish society.

We all have a responsibility to engage in this national conversation and to have the courage to disassociate and name aloud when we encounter inappropriate comments, gestures, or behavior that intimidates and belittles women.

It is no longer acceptable that the majority of women feel vulnerable when they are simply out for a walk.

President Higgins in his reaction to Ashling’s tragic death suggested that now is a time to reflect on how we can eliminate violence against women from our society.

“May I suggest to all our people to reflect on all of our actions and attitudes – and indeed those we may have been leaving unchallenged amongst those whom we know – and do all we can to ensure that the society we live in is one where all of our citizens are free to live their lives, participate fully, in an atmosphere that is unencumbered by risks for their safety.”

As we welcome the beginnings of a new spring, I’m sure we all take inspiration from the green shoots of emerging daffodils.

Daffodils are indeed a sacred spring flower. While like Ashling their lives are short, its blossom is so very bright. Daffodils are the bloom of hope.

The poet, Robert Herrick, laments because of how short a life the daffodil blooms.

Fair Daffodils, we weep to see
You haste away so soon;
As yet the early-rising sun
Has not attain’d his noon.
Stay, stay,
Until the hasting day has run,
But to the even-song;
And, having pray’d together, we
Will go with you along.
We have short time to stay, as you,
We have as short a spring;
As quick a growth to meet decay,
As you, or anything.
We die as your hours do, and dry away,
Like to the summer’s rain;
Or as the pearls of morning’s dew,
Ne’er to be found again.

Ashling you have inspired in your short life an entire nation.

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Fr Paddy is a curate in the hugely vibrant Portlaoise Parish. From Carlow town, he was educated in Carlow CBS and studied Business and Politics in Trinity College Dublin before training to be a priest in Carlow College. He is the youngest priest in the Kildare & Leighlin diocese and writes for a number of media outlets. He has almost 14,000 followers on Twitter.